The mind connection to getting pregnant is stronger than we
Don't take pregnancy for granted or overlook the miracle
Many people treat themselves like a vending machine, demanding a baby
instantly without any thought of the magic and sacred wonder involved. If
it doesn't happen they get angry, sad, impatient and an assortment of bad
feelings about themselves and life in general. That's a shame.
Others, try for years and would give just about anything for the
opportunity to get pregnant. So many efforts with negative results can be
the source of so much pain and suffering. If you were to focus solely on
that, it would increase and it would feel like there was no point in even
trying. Let's get to work on that.
Carrying, generating or opening yourself to take more stress is definitely
not the easiest way to get pregnant.
What you think really does matter
If you take no as an ultimate answer, you will not open yourself to
possibility and therefore not try options that are available, dooming
yourself to failure or, as they call it, a self fulfilling prophecy. Some
people thrive on negativity like this just for the badge of honor they
believe they get by saying, "see? I told you it wouldn't work!" - which is
sad and unfortunate.
Society has come a long way - but we're still quite ignorant when it comes
to how we should treat ourselves and each other. The shift is coming, but
we'll need to work toward this and evolve mentally if we want the best
chances of getting pregnant and for the life of the baby once born.
A good way to start is by opening ourselves to possibility. Instead of
accepting a "no" from one person, be it a friend, family member, doctor or
even yourself - consider the fact that there is no way that person knows
everything. There are so many things about the human mind, body and
life that we have no clue about. We'll be learning forever, life is too
miraculous to just know so easily.
Maybe, just maybe if you went at this playfully and enjoyed yourself it
would serve you many times over.
It's so much though. Where should someone start?
How about by softening the thoughts and language you use. Let's say you've
tried before and it didn't work out. Did you blame yourself? Be honest!
Let's start with me asking you to please, not do that. Let's get rid of
fault and blame forever, shall we?
We can get by just as well by simply claiming responsibility. If it was
your responsibility to take the prenatal vitamins (or some other effort),
that's as far as it needs to go. You don't need to call yourself names, or
put such heavy, negative words like fault and blame into it. Claim
responsibility, do better next time and try again.
A more positive view will help you in every aspect of your life, help
reduce stress and make it possible for you to accomplish more with less
effort because you won't be fighting against yourself as much!
Instead of thinking in terms of what you think you can't do - think
in terms of what you can do.
There are no suggestions, techniques, methods, demands or tips here (or
included in any of the links to other helpful resources) that you can't
do. Nothing here is beyond your reach. I'm talking to you, specifically,
reading this right now. YOU! I truly believe in you and if you were
fully on board with this, you'd be amazed at what's possible for you!
Speaking of ability - as of the writing of this paragraph there is a woman
named Maria del Carmen Bousada de Lara who is the oldest verified mother
on Earth. She was 66 years and 358 days (7 days short of being 67) when
she gave birth to twins. This is a fact! Keep that in mind while
you're putting together your plan of techniques to get pregnant.
Bathe yourself in the joy, sacredness and miracle of the situation
When we try and aren't 100% successful immediately, we can tend to focus
on the negative. Instead, shift your focus to the incredible nature of
this whole thing. Just the fact that you are alive, existing on this
planet, can read these words and hum a little tune. All the while, your
amazing body is repairing itself, growing your hair and fingernails,
digesting your food and a whole host of other things.
This incredible human body has been capable of creating
LIFE for millions of years. If you
have any difficulty connecting with how sacred and fantastic life
is, reflect back to when you lost someone you loved dearly. THAT is the
SAME life we're talking about. It is truly incredible!
Reduce stress using relaxation methods
Softening your thoughts and language will truly help reducing existing
stress and create less stress in the future. But as we all know stress
comes from virtually everywhere. It's on TV, on the phone, at work, in
traffic, at home and probably hiding in the back yard.
So we need some ways to reduce the stress of the past, present and for
Hypnosis, meditation, laughter, enjoying nature, moderate exercise, being
grateful and listening to music you enjoy are all very effective tools for
reducing stress. They are all free or very cheap to do and when used as a
practice can deepen your levels of peace and enjoyment while reducing
stress which is stored in the body and mind.
Change your posture
Take your face and body and change their posture to a positive, healthy
form. Sit or stand straight up with good posture, put a smile on your face
and raise your hands above your head victoriously like you just won
something. Don't just half-heartedly do it, put some playful energy into
it - extra points if you say, "woo-hoo!" or "yes!" in an excited fashion.
Stay like that a while.. maybe 30 seconds to a minute. Now relax. Do that
from time to time, probably best to do when you're alone. We wouldn't want
people to think you're weird at this point in your life,
would we? Or, if it would bring you joy, try walking into a room of people
Try using positive visualization
Imagine yourself happier. Imagine yourself relaxed, positive and healthier
than you can remember. Imagine yourself feeling really good.
While in this state, think positive things about yourself, your life, your
friends, family, home, city, state, country and world. Feel free to repeat
this as often as you like. It's zero calories!
Now let's take this to the next level...
Imagine yourself pregnant.
Imagine feeling the weight of the baby, growing inside of you as you're
reading this. Imagine, with positive expectation what the first sounds the
baby will make sound like. Imagine how soft and delicate the baby's skin
feels to your touch. Imagine looking down into those completely innocent
eyes and them struggling to find focus of your face. Imagine the clean and
beautiful smell of baby. Imagine the taste of when you first try baby food
to show the baby it's okay to eat.
Take your time and live inside these visualizations. Get all of your
senses involved as often as possible. Imagine how much care you will take
to raise this baby because you know the value and the miracle of its life.
Now imagine yourself with positive expectation lining up the techniques,
strategies and ideas you are going to put into practice, daily, to give
yourself and your partner the best chance of achieving this reality. See
yourself joyfully going through the steps, watching your diet, exercising,
shaping your positive focus, taking several measures to reduce stress and
continuing your growing knowledge of getting pregnant to give yourself the
best possible shot this time.
Even if you have days where you don't feel like it, you do it anyway. If
you have little slip ups or mishaps, you continue forward as best you can.
Playfully enjoy the entire process. Even in the absolute worst case
scenario, you are here now and you have the privilege of trying. There is
a dignity and an honor in that which some people never get the pleasure of
tasting. Enjoy it for all it's worth!